You belong here, exactly as you are 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Kind, practical support for LGBTQ+ folks, families, and schools — with options for sensory needs and reduced-demand days.
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Our safe-space commitment
- We use your name and pronouns; if we slip, we correct and move on.
- We don’t gatekeep identities or timelines — exploration is valid.
- We protect your privacy and signpost to qualified help when asked.
- We allow rest days, sensory needs, and “no-phone” moments.
Affirmation: “They deserve respect, safety, and joy.”
“Masking” vs “Closeting” (quick compare)
Masking (neurodivergent)
- Hiding or copying behaviour to fit in socially.
- Can lead to burnout, shutdowns, and identity fatigue.
- Supports: low-demand days, trusted scripts, sensory breaks.
Closeting (LGBTQ+)
- Withholding identity for safety, privacy, or readiness.
- Can cause stress and isolation; your pace is valid.
- Supports: safe people, community, crisis contacts.
Sensory & transition tips
- Clothes: soft seams, tagless layers; binder safety basics; gradual changes.
- Makeup/voice: start at home; short practice windows; positive self-talk only.
- Healthcare: bring notes; ask for an affirming clinician; take a supporter.
- Social: choose words in advance; keep a “boundary phrase” ready.
Social scripts (pick, adapt, use)
Correcting a name/pronoun
“Hey — it’s Your Name and I use they pronouns. Thanks!”
Declining personal questions
“I’m not discussing that today. Let’s stick to the topic.”
Asking a teacher/manager for support
“Could we update the register and email signature to my name/pronouns? It helps me feel safe and able to focus.”
Where to find support (UK)
Support line & chat (10am–10pm).
For young people, parents & carers.
Text SHOUT to 85258. Free & confidential.
Support line + resources.
Guides and information by nation.
24/7 listening support for anyone.
FAQs
Is it okay not to be out yet?
Yes. You control who knows and when. Your safety and readiness come first.
Can I choose my pronouns here?
Yes. Use the selector at the top — your choice applies across this page and saves to your device.
Where can I get help now?
Use the site’s Crisis Help at the top of the page for urgent options. For listening support, call Samaritans on 116 123.